Manners

So recently I have become obsessed with manners, in my quest to become the perfect little housewife for Sam. I actually rented this great little book on manners by Kate Spade. It has adorable little pictures and I am marking things I want to photocopy to compile. 

It doesn't irritate me when other people don't have manners (save for the leg spreading crotch scratch, and other similar extreme situations), but it bothers me when I think about a situation I was just in, and I have horrible manners. 

For instance, tonight, I see this girl who's bf I had a crush on in high school. I see him a few minutes later (attached to her at the hip for the rest of the night) from across the bar. At the end of the night (at least for me) I decide to walk up to them and say hey. I say hey to him (who doesn't recognize me, I was about 50 pounds at about 5' the last time we had a lengthy conversation, and that is no exaggeration) and I also said hey to his gf (who I knew but had never had a real conversation with, despite attending the same school for at least 4 years) and their male friend. 

But my manners were horrible! I spoke with him for a minute, and the whole time was trying to walk away! And he continued to ask me question after question about myself, but I did not ask him a single question about himself. His gf was very intimidating, I don't think she liked me talking to him, but he is a nice guy and he was very nice to me, gf be damned. 

But I never asked him a single question about what he is doing now, how his school was (Harvard!), not a single question.

And, although I am getting better, I have always been like this. I have never thought of myself as self-centered, I always worry about other people. But I don't know how to express my worry, or I don't realize its something to worry about until after they have told me the situation and I have walked away from them with an "o, I'm sorry." I have never been the one to ask the what are you up to, what is that like, questions about the other person.

Hopefully I will learn! And soon! I want to become the perfect little housewife! I really do! I want to be a Lilly Pulitzer wearing, Sunday brunch hosting, Meatloaf producing, oversized SUV driving, little housewife. 

I guess I need to improve my social skills first! Such as my inability to hang out with a group of only girls for more than 5 minutes without wanting to pull my hair out!